Valium was helpful for the first 5-6 years of my ordeal, but they began to make me VERY depressed. I have used Tizatidine (sp?) and am now on Flexaril. I have heard from other people and Dr's that your body becomes accustom to meds and a change-up once in a while keeps the body off-guard.
You need a Pain Management Doc to follow your care. Don't go for a cheezy pain clinic, go to one affilliated with a hospital.
The body always amazes me with it's tripple-redundant processes of healing. Re-routing blood vessles, regrowing nerves, and the pain... how can we keep going? Our wonderfully made bodies can! (Sometimes) it's our minds that need the reassurance, and our bodies need assistance with meds.
I hope this early morning comment isn't too blunt. We're all pulling for you eveewonder,

A.