dolphin,
there is something i have learned through my faith, and that is how to offer up your pain for someone to help take the burden off them, and i want you to know that right now i am offering up my pain for you. i will tolerate anything i get, physically and emotionally, for you and your family. i will think of you, and consider it as prayer, with any encouter i have with pain.
you make my problems as small as a grain of sand ... there is no comparison. may God comfort you and your family in this deeply sorrowful time.
joan