Wishing you all the best Heidi!! 
No easy thing that you are doing. I too have been struggling with dental issues all summer in a big way when I had three extractions and I'm still trying to heal. Well, dental issues stem longer than that, but now I'm in a mess with my teeth. I was just quoted something like $4500. for another extraction, the surgery you speak of to get rid of the infection, bone graphing, and this doesn't include any teeth yet. So far my loss of teeth has been molars, so thank goodness that it's harder to see they're missing, but difficult to chew.
Anyway.. so yeah, $4500.. um... and I didn't even ask how much more with any sort of partial. I fear implants. Meanwhile, if I don't do something the infection continues to cause more and more damage to my gums, and tooth loss.
This is such a tough ordeal on top of all the other pain or conditions we're dealing with. You're handling it like such a trooper Heidi! You are going to get the gums healed once and for all and feel SO MUCH better!