She needs to know that she needs to slow down with her speaking. She needs to make the sentences simple, no long complex sentences. If you are like me, it would work better if she texted or better, email her comments to you. I have almost not problem when I can read the comments. It also helps if others can reduce the emotion and angst in their speech.

I know this sounds convoluted but it is how our brains are processing verbal input. With just a bit of help from others, we can do much better.

It also helps to turn off any background voices, TV, radio, etc.

My best to you.