Donna,
So sorry to hear of the family problem.
I wonder how a 12 year old gets burnt that bad on soup, especially after a burn with coffee. Where was the burn? Something isn't adding up. From being in homes that said this is how burns happened, I found out later a whole different scenario.

Another thing, if your son is not court orders to pay child support, he will be. Any time there is assistance provided they will issue an order of support, not the mother. Then can go back too for support.

Hugs for you and family,
Di