Goodness I am so sorry for all that you are going through....I must say though reading your post I can very much relate to the lack of support and empathy. My boyfriend is uninvolved in my situation, he works, I'm currently on a leave, I do EVERYTHING around the house and he barely notices or even asks how I am. When I point it out he says "well I figured it hasn't changed".....I think it'd just how differently we think. Sometimes for me, talking about my pain and situation helps me through it where as he sees it as dwelling on it.