i don't know of a gym that deals with handicap people only but I have seen many handicap people at the Y and they have trainers with them. I don't know if they are Y trainers or a PT person uses the Y.

Have you tried to call some of your friends, I mean initiate the call yourself instead of waiting on them to call. Try to have a girl party at your house, paint each others toe nails or pop some popcorn and watch a movie. You could see who really wants to be there. I know that you have just started driving. Does your boyfriend live to far away for you to drive there?