Chris-
I can't tell you how sorry I am. Noone should have to go through that experience once, let alone multiple times.

I am going through the process of adopting right now. We haven't tried to have our own, but if all goes as planned, we'lll adopt from China. Unfortunately, China has changed their rules and people with MS, are now likely excluded to adopt for the near future from China. China has recently changed their policies to slow the number of new adopters, so people with MS are excluded (TG-I'm grandfathered in). We expect to have our child in Sept 08 if all goes well.

I Know already that it's not a big issue in other places. My neighbor's son ( single gay man) adopted an American newborn infant last year and the process was not all that long, just expensive. You will find a way - I know that. Best of luck to you!