Well you say you love her so that's a start, do you both belong to a church group? I don't, but a minister can help with these things. Or you can try your GP? Is there a reason why you haven't worked these last 3 months, or did you resign because of pressure from your wife. Have you been married long, perhaps you can go back to the preacher who performed the ceremony? Whatever you do you need to do it soon and you need to let your minister or doctor be aware of her threats. Have your GP refer you to a psychologist for couples counselling as well. Do this sooner than later before she kills all your confidence and find out why she is so insecure.