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Old 11-03-2014, 02:02 PM
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I'm sorry you are going through this rough patch. We've all been there...many of us several times. You need to know that it's OKAY to feel the way you do...but you can't stay there. My boyfriend would tell me I could have ONE DAY to be mopey and depressed when something went badly during my roughest time with the RSD...and then I had to move on. It helped me a lot to do exactly that...when those bad feelings and times come you are allowed to be upset by it...but you can't let it consume you.

I had a doctor tell me something once very similar to what visioniosiv said and that was, "You are not your RSD." It doesn't define who we are...it's just something we go through and something we have to deal with...but we are not our pain.

There are things we can control and things we can't...what I focus on are the things I CAN control (and my RSD really is not one of those things though there are things I can do for damage control...most of it is out of my control). Sometimes it's the little battles that I win that make all the difference in the world for me. Things like: today I got out of bed, today I got dressed in something other than pajamas, or today I did the dishes. To someone who doesn't go through what we do those may seem like insignificant things...but I tell you those little wins really boosted my spirits and made so many more things seem possible.

Take care of yourself and know that we are here for you whether you need advice or even if you just need to vent and get things off your chest. You're not alone. Hugs.
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