Yes, this is hard, and with kids it is even harder. I'd like to tell you that there is something definite that helps. but 26 years on and with a 24 year old and a 26 year old. I'd be lying to you.

I don't know what there is to help except to live life one moment at a time. That is all you get in reality. Somedays really really suck, and some are brilliant. Find that tiny space where you can survive.

Good luck with the baby. they are their own great joy.