Hi Lit Love,

One more comment from this peanut gallery. Your first post sound like she has already put you on the "defensive" side and that is NOT a good place to pushed into by someone. Put HER on the defensive. Take the offense. While I am sure you want to be polite and not be the "attacker", if there is potential for a budding friendship, throw politeness out of the window and "test" the potential relationship. A friend worth having will make it through a direct, honest, conversation that is not masked in politeness.

Your point of the irony of her applying for disability was great. Also the reason SSDI can be so hard to obtain for those of us who would give anything to be "capable" of working if only we could. Those of us who loved our jobs, our work, our livelihood, and would trade our inabilities in a second for the opportunity to return to our work lives.

How much so many of us would love to go back to work, renounce our SSDI income, and lead the lives we once had before struck down by some chronic illness.

Many "surprises" may lay in wait for your acquaintance when she applies for SSDI. I fear that once those surprises surface, she will have you on speed dial. Ah, you will suddenly become her BEST friend and her tune may change. When that happens, just tell her that it is all in her "attitude".