So so sorry to hear of your loss...

Kennedy said, "Life isn't fair." No kidding...we can't understand how these things occur. It breaks our hearts even more when our loved ones pass from these types of situations. It is absolutely horrible...unbelievable.

You are smart in realizing that stress from this situation can cause a pseudo-exacerbation. Try your best to take time to sit still and count your breaths, going through your body and relaxing each muscle group. Bring to mind all of the wonderful memories you have of your uncle-allow those images and memories reduce the pain. It won't eliminate the pain, and it's good to allow for those feelings; it's just not good for our compromised bodies to be inundated with the associated problems that result.

Hugs to you and your family...know that you're not alone...