Dear Chris--

I apologize for not replying to your post sooner; I'm so sorry you're having to go through all this as well as the * MS.

I was in a similar position to yours 15 years ago. Let me add my cyber voice to those who have already expressed the incredible frustration and sense of disbelief that something so "easy" as getting your own baby into the nursery just seems to be an impossibility.

And you're right: there is no rhyme or reason and most assuredly nothing remotely resembling "fair play" in this. None at all.

A couple of posters have already mentioned Chinese adoptions.

But let me add also that India has a veritable legion of children for adoption. Now it's a little harder in India--if you have some friends of friends of friends here that can help you grease the wheels there, you'll be amazed at what can happen. And like Chinese adoption, it's pretty much a done deal when you get into international air space--and that has to be a lot of peace of mind for the wonderful people who embark on such an adventure--as well as a life-changing event for the babies they bring home.

And in one of those bitter ironies of life: for more than 20 years, people in India have been unofficially engaged in femicide. A marriageable generation later, girls are in such short supply that they're a commodity. The baby boys are the unwanted ones in many, many places these days.

I'll be sending you positive thoughts and prayers--you're obviously a great gal from what I'm reading on this forum.