These are very real and tough issues. I really hurt for you. Wish I could give you more than a cyber-hug but here is one anyway..

I can't even imagine what it would be like to be young like you and suffer from this disease. But I have to say that someone who really cares for you will be able to see past the disease and love you for you. There are people out there who can actually do this. I've known a few.

I know other's who suffer from Sjogren's Syndrome like myself. Some of them are young. This is a progressive disease. The young one's ask, "When I meet someone, how soon should I tell them about the disease." The answer is not always clear. I personally don't think you should immediately jump in with "I have a disease that may put me in a wheelchair". But at the same time, I think you should be upfront with what you are going thru. Anyone who is going to stay for the long haul will find themselves doing just that.

Your young man was honest. At least he told you why he couldn't stay. It clearly frightened him. Respect him for that.

I wish you happier times soon.

Billye