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Old 01-12-2015, 03:20 AM
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Interesting about the words.

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Originally Posted by Mari View Post

Confrontation is about challenging/clashing with someone.
That is not what you are doing.

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I'd call it confrontation, or challenge, or conflict, when a doctor says, "Do this," and we say, "I don't want to because...", regardless of whether it is done nicely or not.

Sometimes, it is necessary to say no. At times a "no" can be replaced with strategic questions to bring the other person around. Other times, it is simpler for everyone to be direct, and just get the goods on the table. This doesn't mean one must be rude, insulting, or even aggressive, but it does mean one must be assertive.

It's funny, because I've never taken the word "confrontation" to imply aggression, and yet, I've always taken the word "non-confrontational" to mean "without aggression". How's that for coherence. Lol.

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