Oh, dear Roz

Whether you feel like it, or up to it, you must get a fair deal worked out, whether you stay married or divorce, everyone is so right about that.

I have been reading your posts now for 3 years, I get a strong impression of a man who is a control freak, is a workaholic, probably loves you, but can't handle a disabled wife. He works hard, in a "man's world", construction industry, right? and wants a wife who will kowtow to that stereotype. I've never got the impression you'd fit in with that stereotype....

You spent that time in the cabin, you know what living without him is like...you'll be fine. As long as you work out a fair deal with him. It may not have hit you yet, don't hesitate to come here and blast him from the rooftops. Though it sounds as if you still have some respect for each other...

And on that note I leave you------> artist wanders off muttering "the swine! the *****! the ba888st*rd!"

all the best