Waves,
I agree that little things
are big things.
They often are to me.
I understand that.
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Unlike people who can't take hints, I tend to take too many. I read "signals" that are not there. I get hurt (or angry, or even happy) rather too often, due to "hints" I take, that were just little, hapless, incidental things.
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Sometimes I recognize signals and choose to ignore them and plow through anyway --- recognizing that I am taking a chance.
I cut people LOTS of slack when they miss my signals.
But most of the time, people are thick skinned enough that even if I screw up, they let it go. All interactions are fraught with potential for confusion and misunderstanding and hurt. (hurt of our selves/ and / or the other person as well. Two people could walk away hurt, but usually both people walk away satisfied if not happy)
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The "hints" I am most sensitive to, are those that indicate rejection in some way. I have an excruciatingly high sensitivity to interpersonal rejection (
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I am sorry to hear this. Rejection is exceeding crushing.
If I screwed up, I apologize.
I am depressed beyond anything and tremendously overwhelmed with self care, at work, . .
. with everything I touch, I find that I am dealing with something laborious.
Mari