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Originally Posted by waves
Lara, yes. The thing is, you know, I'll go onto Facebook now that I've joined, see my friends talk to each other merrily without me, sometimes on subjects I find frivolous, and feel rejected by the mere fact that they are not talking to me. I feel superfluous, even if I haven't said anything, or written to anybody. (Of course it is much worse if I post a reference to scary events that bothered me, and nobody so much as acknowledges it.) I guess what I'm saying is that it can be difficult, when one is sensitive to rejection, to come and read without participating, and still feel cared about. It doesn't quite come naturally.
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Waves,
When one is sensitive to rejection, FB is a deflating place.
If you are just now joining FB, you are not part of the group yet. They have been in their FB group for nearly a decade. Give it time, but keep expectations low.
I notice that when I get responses it is to a post that I "targeted" to two or three people. And even then they were "likes." A rare few times I got a comment back. And once older brother used something I shared to go on a tare about something against my share in order to showboat for his "friends."
I have a total of 33 "friends" because I have been dropping as I add (kind of like my old CD collecting used to be).
Those friends are mostly relatives (siblings, their offspring, very close cousins, and current students)
No one has ever responded to something that I cared about.
I signed up for Instagram three weeks ago. It connects to FB because FB owns it. I am learning it for fun. If one likes to take pictures or look at pictures, it might be a better medium then FB.
I seriously and honest to G-d went to
five colleges for undergraduate because I started college early when I was sixteen and was still moving around with my father/family. So I have have only two college friends whom I am in touch with -- as opposed to the large number of friends one brother has from his 1. intense team college sport and 2. intense college organization for his whole four years of undergrad in the same place. Those people have found him.
Take FB for what is is -- not nothing but not something either.
Neither fish nor fowl and mostly foul.
Mari