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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Spokane Valley, Wa
Posts: 473
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Spokane Valley, Wa
Posts: 473
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Hi Karen  Welcome to the boards. I look forward to getting to know you.
I developed rsd when my sons were ages 10 & 7. They are now 23 & 20, and have grown up real well, even if I do say so myself. <big cheesy grin while patting myself on the back> Having rsd certainly DOES change how one parents, but it doesn't necessarily have to be in a bad way.
My relationship with my sons changed dramatically. We had always been a very loving family, but sometimes too busy for each other. With me not working anymore, and our finances curtailed quite a bit, we became much more cerebral and emotional. In the long run, I think it went much better that way. I know that having expressed ourselves to each other the way we did, we know each other much better than many families. We don't have unrealistic expectations of each other, either. Instead of being hurt and disappointed when one of us doesn't do things the way we would, we just say "oh well, that's just Chris (or whoever)".
I don't know too many other mothers who can say their sons know how to crochet and macrame', lol. But both my sons were quite willing to learn whatever craft I was into for the moment... sitting still made me crazy, so I at least had to keep my hands busy! (Nowadays, the rsd is creeping into my hands, which is a different story altogether).
So don't stress too much over it, Karen. Your parenting style will have to change, but the love and respect you feel for each other doesn't need to.
As an old acquaintance of mine would say:
Onwards & Upwards! 
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