Hi AFVeteran80,
While your physical injuries are serious, and you seeking knowledge of meds sensible, your Depression and Anxiety will be fuelling all the other problems. Having suffered both for over 30 years I can understand how frustrated and angry you feel.
You must have these conditions addressed as soon as you can - Counselling works for a lot of people, anti-depressants may be an option and beta-blockers are still good for Anxiety attacks.
Learning to meditate properly can also be beneficial for a long-term fix, but it takes time to master.
Above all else, search for a solution to your anger problems. Too many of us on here have lost relationships, family, friends due to them being unable to cope with our conditions or our changed moods. Don't become another relationship casualty, try to talk - even when it gets hard. Learn the signs of rising frustration and CALMLY go for a walk. Use the Forums to vent, or rage at the World - there will always be someone here to listen.
Feel well.

Dave.