Not sure if I can help anyone here, but my wife and I (im the one with the injury) have talked about this over and over.

She says im a totally different person, like not even close the guy I was. She pointed out a lot of things, and I listened and wrote it down. Its made me aware of who I am now compared to who I used to be. Im working extremely hard at it, and she says shes slowly seeing a lot of me husband wise return. Granted its exhausting, but I had to learn to live with the pain and the effects of a brain injury, and not let it control you.

Im not the kind of person that gives up on anything, or accepts a negative change easily. Im a bit over a year, it would of been easier to give up 6 months ago and accept the new me. Acceptance equals defeat in my mind. While I havent accepted this, im learning to live with it. Try talking to your spouses. Ask them the hard questions. Its going to be a multiple time conversation, but it needs to be done. My wife did this to me, and I hated it at the time because it made me extremely emotional and feel less like a husband and father. But it needs to be done, trust me. Once you are both on the same exact page, stuff flows a lot easier. For me now its easier to be the husband to her that she married. Granted im still far away from that man I used to be, but theres light at the end of the tunnel so to speak.

Just keep trying, its possible. If you need anymore assistance, just private message me. Maybe I can assist you in what to ask, or have my wife respond to your questions if you private message me.

Take Care.