i think change sucks when you're in the middle of it.
sometimes it sucks before and after too.

sounds like your husband could use a "library" in the sense of a room, sounds like. you know like in Clue. and sounds like you need to get a little more clear areas. you are in negotiations it sounds like.

my mom is cluttery and my dad is not. i dislike clutter but i tend to be cluttery. still, i notice when my mom would come over after i had tidied, suddenly where i had three separate clear surface areas, i suddenly had three separate cluttered surface areas. they have been married what 40 years now.

clutter and stuff are interchangeable really, the difference is a subjective one.

here's to our moves leading us to healthier happier lives. somehow.