Hi maygin,
Love the name!
Unfortunately I don't have an answer that would be sufficient.
The only thing that was told to me is "it is what it is" and that's pretty much the way I except it.
I totally understand being in wheelchair.
There's plenty of times were I feel left out of things or I can't do the things with people/family that I used to or want to.
To make matters worse I lost the use of my left hand. I was trying to learn classical piano too.
I just except the fact that my accident could of been worse and count my blessings I'm still here.
So what I'm trying to say is "it is what it is".
Be well...