Thinking of you, Snoopy. I know what you mean with being able to relate so closely with others going through difficult times. I tend to take on others pain, too, without really realizing it until it's too late!
I pray that you find peace with this. I think it's a special gift to be able to relate to others during their difficult times. It's not easy but I think that only those who can handle the emotions actually have the gift.
Thanking God that your son was unhurt.