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Originally Posted by ger715
If possible, might be of help if you were able to let go of dwelling what most of us do as a matter of being a responsible parent without need to go back into all we have done for them.
It does not occur to me to look back on what I have done for my children; what I do often concentrate on tho is caring about their health, jobs, etc. What I have done for them just does not come up. I brought them into this world. The love and care for them is automatic.
Just afraid all this darkens the depression you are going thru causing it to become even deeper.
I only mention all this because I care about you and your family. Sometimes we need to do our best to control the dwelling on all that sorrows.
Gerry
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Gerry
you are absolutely correct
it is not the in your face
and don't you ever forget it
this is at a time i could have been selfish
and she wanted me there
i did it with nothing in return
and still listen to her
what is brought up
are situations that have occurred
in their adult
i am not speaking of the necessary
responsibilities of preventative
health care that's a given
some will call it enabling
i definitely rather not have any
of what i am going through happen
and it is
i have to learn how to say NO
and not let them hurt me
my child in her mid thirties
and she NEEDS her eyes checked
along with that eye wear
and nothing in return is
there does come a time when
taking from me has stopped
my eldest asked for help purchasing
christmas gifts with the promise of them
her to pay it off monthly
four computer tablets and a previous
balance hers was paying monthly payments
and her reason
did not like being asked how could she have left a mess
as she did using my apartment as a venue for her to have
her poetry features happen
and the response was go blank yourself
and has no intention to pay the dell account
all hers left for me to pay
is the first for her
so no i don't like having to remind them of their obligations
this is all present happenings
undeserving of it all
me