Okay, give yourself some slack...you were in labor....enough said. But yes, it does take a while to adjust to this monster that lives inside us....I remember when asked for help I felt like a little child, "no I do it..."; I hated having to say...hey can you please help me? Now, I know it's just life; when I can, I do, when I can't I don't push myself any more....I just don't do it or ask for help.
The future isn't over, it's just a new journey...a different page in the journal. With a little one, it's going to be hard on you both; but communication, understanding and a lot of laughter. Plus it's Okay to cry and be mad...in other words expressing of feelings...but don't let the later be the rule of your family unit...
He and you are both welcome her to learn and vent... to share and enjoy.