Roz, I am so sorry to hear you are going through this on top of your rsd, They have times when they just burn out it seems. I try to turn on the reverse neutering when i can which is not that ofter. It helps. But with each new failed treatment there is the anger it didnt "work" do you know what I mean... and not just from my husband but others. they become aggressive, bored or irritated Im not cured. Hang in there. Many times I thought Id be better off alone but Ive been very lucky mine has come around each time. we are in counseling though and I do belive that helps. Good luck and take care, Lisle