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Originally Posted by Nellyzen
Thank you! And I didn't think you sounded preachy at all.
I've always been a very goal oriented, focused person...I like to work, to feel useful, independent, etc. Type A personality which is not always good as I've learned the hard way.
It is difficult to not feel guilty about doing nothing when everyone is rushing off somewhere every day. I think society here also make it hard because they have no empathy for sick people, we are all just...lazy. The insurance company makes you feel that way too. There is a high expectation to be ok all the time, to be happy all the time and to work until you drop all the time.
These expectations lead to depression as well. Life is not supposed to be happy all the time. I do practice meditation and I read a lot about these things. I haven't been very focused lately, it seems like I can only do these things when I'm calm. It also doesn't help that drs make unrealistic promises about recovery. This gives the patient anxiety when they have not recovered as well as they were supposed to or as fast.
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Well, those people are rushing off everywhere because they can and we have a tougher task ahead of us. I dont think you should feel guilty at all. Its tough to be in your shoes and its not like you asked for all these things
I do think TOS is linked to being a Type A/Type AB etc - we are generally harder on ourselves.
And yes, society generally has healthy people or folks who don't have such chronic syndromes. So some act insensitive.
We go through this everyday and folks don't get it.
The stuff you said about being able to do meditation (to calm ourselves) only when we are calm (paradoxical) is so true, LOL!!
Today, I wanted to do some gentle movements to fix my Nervous system etc. But I was just too keyed up!!
Talk about a catch -22!!