Bizi, I that that I might understand.

In your words, it took me a long time to understand that "I can't be a moderate drinker".

I think that your insight that "drinking won't define me" is a really positive thing.

For me sobriety is the only choice (I don't know about you).

Any time that you would like to have a chat by PM about this is good with me.

With care and concern.