First off.... I'm a guy- never been through childbirth myself- the closest I have been was helping my wife 10 months ago. We decided (at her prompting) to look at all-natural birth methods. We had ~3 months (12-14 classes) where we worked on mind and body pain control techniques. I only mention this because given your situation, they might be handy (regardless of how you have your little one). The "method" we did is called the Bradley Method.... I liked it, because it kept me involved. Anyways.... best wishes with whatever YOU choose.