Hi Lili,
I have just finished Posting to new Member OutlawZ who has has fusion surgery:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/thread222966.html
My neck damage was caused by a high speed motorbike accident, followed by whiplash injuries and arthritis. I also have compressed spinal cord causing pain and numbness in left arm, and extreme pain in right arm. I cannot hold or lift anything heavier than a 500ml bottle of water without excruciating pain and I frequently drop things. The falls I suffer are caused by damage to my lower spine.
I am sorry you have had to come and join us, but this is a caring Community, with wonderful Members. Explore the Forums, especially the Spinal Forum.
I look forward to seeing you around.
Dave.