I was going to suggest that Jo*mar. I went to therapy for a while. I found someone who happen to be very knowledgeable in working with patients in chronic pain. She helps me learn how to focus on other things besides the pain. She made meditation tapes for me also.
I'm not saying that I'm always able to do these things but I can often enough.

She also helped me deal with the loss of my old self.
I still have my days of hating all of this. I still have trouble taking my focus off the pain especially at night but I have learned to calm myself down. I learned when I'm stressed and focused on the pain it gets a lot worse.
I turn the tv on or meditate or read. Whatever I can to change my focus !