Dear DejaVu,
Experiencing a loss as profound as you and your family have endured is not something I could ever imagine, and I am sorry for all you have been through. Thank you for reaching out and sharing with all of us.

The ramifications of such a tragedy just don't seem to stop.
Maybe one day you will have that family get together where you can all put the past events aside for one day and just BE together. That is a lovely gathering to hope for. I will say a prayer that it happens.

My family, much like Eva has also explained, is also splintered. Like you, I have found my family in friends. Many of them on these forums.

I hope you and your family continue to heal and this week passes with just a bit more understanding and a little less pain.

My best,
Diandra