Hi Falldc

Im so sorry to hear what you are going through. I am going through the same thing with my husband. He also has frontal lobe damage. We have been together for 15years and have a 6year old son. My husband has become very much like yours except he is starting to become physically violent. he also shows no empathy or love. I can only wish my husband would give me the silent treatment but he does not let me rest. he follows me around the house and makes rude coments. He does not let me sleep and if I don't listen to him talk till the early hours of the morning he will make nasty comments into my ear. I am a stay at home mum raising our son. he will tell me he pays the rent its his house I don't work don't do anything I should sleep during the day so he can talk to me at night etc.. basically everything I pride myself on he takes from me. and when I ask him to stop he will look for new ways to hurt me even as far as pointing out shows on tv as a way for ( "that's where you get it from") problem is it makes no sence. If im watching the news he will still do it and when I react he says im yelling and spreading all our personal information to the neighbours.. he has been becoming increasingly paranoid as well, opening and closing the front door thinking neighbours are outside listening. I use to keep all our business quiet but I have had to tell friends and family what is going on as I am barely coping. I cannot get a job as I don't have anyone to help me with my son and even if I did get a job I would not be able to keep due to him keeping me awake at night. I am running on empty.

It is very hard to deal with I know. Im sorry I cant help you but I do know what you are going through and how horrible it feels. I just wanted to tell you you are not alone in what you are going through and I also struggle with betraying my husband for telling people whats going on but you have been put in an impossible situation to deal with on your own. If there is a way you can get him to get an assessment do it. I am still trying this myself but keep coming to dead ends and if it wasn't for my son I would've left by now. I wish you all the best and hope you find a solution. You deserve to be happy and live a life without this much stress. All the best to you.