Hi falldc,
I had to laugh, rather heartily, along with you, of course! Your last sentence struck a chord with me.
It sounds like you are adjusting and trying to make the best of things.
It's interesting, I have found when I make a shift in my usual stance, soon thereafter, the other person also makes a shift. Our initial shift creates space for someone else to also shift.
I find this often helpful.
As you keep your cool and take things in stride, avoid conflict, he may follow your lead.
Sounds like things aren't ideal-- when are they ever in real life.
Sounds like the situation is improving?
I am very impressed with the fact that you sound like you are in a very different space, a less stressed, more healthy space?
It's great to hear from you!
Continue taking good care!
DejaVu