I was responding to this thread's heading, "Crying and Lost!",and the confusion that followed. I don't think that Daniella picked those words lightly, is lying, or exaggerating.

After the crying and confusion, then what?

Fear is a big part of having a chronic health condition that our doctors haven't been able or possibly willing to diagnose or effectively treat. The link to the American Chronic Pain Association provides 1) ways reduce or eliminate fear, and 2) how to get direction in health care, among other things. There are many other sites, books, and articles that provide the same thing, but just studying the ACPA site shows that there are alternatives to helpless victimhood...the possibility that WE can make it better through our own actions and attitude, including getting the help we need from the right people.

Chronic fear, frustration, or anger are hard on us physically. These strong emotions increase our symptoms dramatically, sap our energy and vitality, cause confusion, and prevent us from doing what we have to do to get a life again outside of our pain, including finding ways to reduce or eliminate the pain.

We can start on the road from being a victim and patient when we cool down our feelings of fear and frustration. We can then become a strong and vibrant person, exercising choices to powerfully and effectively deal with our illness and our lives.