DejaVu, I agree with you about BPD.

One of my closest adult woman friends was given that label (but not ASD) in her teens. She grew up in a, putting it mildly, completely dysfunctional family and used to self-injure (cut) though has not for many years.

I walked her through the DSM criteria for BPD, pointing out (in my opinion as a well-informed amateur) how subjective they are. She found that empowering .

Not one of the better DSM labels in my view.