I'm so sorry for your loss Danny.

I can relate a bit, my mom passed away unexpectedly about a year after my injury. It was brutal.

I attended the visitations and funeral 6 hours away. I wore a hat and sunglasses the whole time inside and outside. I passed off funeral decisions to my dad and sister, no way could I make any decisions.

I stayed in a hotel instead of at my parents house like I normally do when I visit. It meant that for part of the day and night, it was quieter and away from all the heavily grieving people.

After, my recovery set back about 6 months according to my rehab team. All my symptoms flared horribly as well as a few I don't normally have.

It's ok to miss important life events due to our tbis but there was no way I was missing out on saying goodbye. So I didn't care that going was going to make me feel worse at the time, I would have always regretted not going.

You only get one chance to say goodbye.

I wish I had cut myself more slack for the way I felt after. I felt a good bit of pressure from my rehab team to keep attending appointments and therapy.

All the best to you. Be kind to yourself. Dealing with the death of a loved one is hard enough go without these injuries. My thoughts are with you.

Starr