Hi Melody,

It saddens me to read your post. It is very difficult to be the care giver when one is young and very healthy, but having no help and having your own health issues make matters so much harder with no relief in sight. I wish you had some help and a better support system. It is very tiring to be the ONLY person and never have a break from providing all the care.

No matter how much love there is for the person for whom we are the care giver, it is still a very hard road and a very tiring one. Please remember to take care of yourself, too.

You won't be of any help to Alan if you are down with your own health issues. It is not selfish to want and need some time for you to rejuvenate and regenerate. Any chance you could get a neighbor or a friend to be with Alan for a short time so you can get a break?

So sorry to hear the arthritis was so bad that you had to resort to taking medication when it sounds like that is a last resort for you.

Thanks for sharing your feelings.