Hi Debi,
Just a note to say: You are doing it all just the way you need to do it. There is no "weird," no right and no wrong. Tears will often come at seemingly odd times. Comfort will follow suit. Simply "allow" the process -- whatever you need. No judgment upon how your grief expresses itself. Self-compassion is very helpful as you allow yourself to grieve and to heal.
For what it's worth, I believe you feel your husband's Presence because he is Present with you during this very difficult time.
Continued offerings of Love, support and prayers for you, your mom and your family.
Warmly,
DejaVu