Hugs! First you can't help others if your struggling with your own issues. If your not mentally or physically healthy you can't be there for your family. So I'm sure hard but right now you need to be number 1. Now I'm not a mom but I'm in my 20's and I know when I was having issues in the past and not being responsible my mom had to stop helping me. She would be there for me to support emotionally but not to allow me to continue down a bad path like enabler. I know its a tuff spot for you because of your grandchild. I do think your d needs limits and expectations. I know you say she doesn't have enough money and can understand needing help but that help should come only if she is responsible. If that means working 2 plus jobs. It sounds like your the peace keeper and I bet your d knows you will do anything for her. I know for my mom for many years would do anything and even if I made HUGE mistakes out of love. It was really hard for her to say no more and I think for some it may have not worked but for me it MADE me get my life together. I had no choice. Of course I did have some slips or let me show mom times but I learned the hard way it just shooting myself in the foot. Can you talk to your d about how this is effecting your health? As for medical, I think if you go to a psych or your doc even they can help you get disability which would allow for longer. Hugs and take care of YOU!That is being a good mom!