Thank you Scrabble for sharing that...I am impressed because you mulled it over and then DID something. It couldn't have been easy and you might not get the results you want but you took action.

I am still dragging my feet here. for one thing, I am not the only person involved...Mr.Alffe is in no mood for a reconciliation and has warned me that what ever decisions I make...they will be mine alone. ~sigh

And let's be brutally honest...it's easier to lick our wounds than take them to a "doctor". I am not criticizing him...we both lived it but I don't think I want to go the rest of the journey playing the role of victim.

Let me be quick to add that we ARE/WERE the victims. WWJD? I know, I know. That old saw forgiveness.

Hoping that more will share here...we can learn what works from each other.