Well, of course we are concerned that she is having safe sex and not getting pregnant again... but mostly we are concerned about the child.

It's that she basically neglects the kid because she is 20 years old and is too busy being 20 and not being a mommy. She loves her very much. She just doesn't want to live up to the responsibility of being a parent.
She just wants to be a typical 20 year old more than she wants to be a mommy.
When she was 16 and making the decision to "keep" the baby... not to abort, not to put the baby up for adoption, not to... bla bla bla... she was much to young and inexperienced to see this far down the road. To realize that when she was old enough to be independent and single and autonomous (sp?) that she might not want a 4 year old to be responsible for. It was all glamorous and fun then.
Now we have all grown attached to the child, and no one wants to see her (the baby) become this 40 pound anchor that is attached to her mothers waist. We want to see her thrive and become a strong healthy individual who will not be a lost soul or another teenage mother as she grows up.

Thank you all for your support! That's why I love you guys!

Terri