Wow - that was quick! I am very glad that you did not just assume that the "problem" was over and things would be just fine. Hopefully, a number of things will be much better -- I am happy that you have a therapist that you can talk to you and that you are planning to bring up the idea of a little time off.

Even if you decide not to take leave of work right now, it is very important for you to know that the option is there. It is all a part of taking care of ourselves. Sometimes the hardest part of that can be asking for help . . . sounds funny, but I know many here struggle with just that very thing.

Everyone is right in pointing out the danger that could lie ahead -- if mom decides to become primary caretaker again down the road. I know that you have to do what is best right now, without worrying about what could happen. Grandparents' rights are an evolving judicial area. Of course, like almost every other legal issue, they are behind the times and culture. California had done a bit more than most other states -- not so much in terms of "protecting" grandparents, but because many family law courts in CA include the role of primary custodial parent, regardless of which person is actually fulfilling that role.

Anyway, no more about this . . . as you say - you really don't want see any custody or even visitation battles develop. So, good luck with the new plan!

rafi