Thank you everyone for replying! It helps knowing there are people out there willing to help/provide input.

All three doctors have said the DM is not the main cause of the neuropathy due to the way it has progressed. My motor damage was first and more severe than sensory. They said it would be opposite if due to DM. They did say that the DM could be making everything worse.
They also said the damage wouldn't be this severe this soon. I also have no reflexes in feet.

My blood sugars were easily controlled w/Metformin. I have been on it for 4 months now with no relief in symptoms. I also don't notice any difference due to what I'm eating but I don't eat much sugar/carbs. I've cut most out.

The drs think there is a combination of things going on which is probably why they are saying I have a confusing case.

I've tried soaking my feet which doesn't help. My main problem is trying to find shoes....any shoe seems to make my feet worse!
Also the muscle cramps and foot twitches prevent me from sleeping. I can't stomach tonic water.