dear friend

as a recovering addict myself
and after twenty year
and still the first thing i do
having my obsession lifted
does not mean i can entertain
anything that masked and took away
what i did not want to feel or address

what Gerry and others are correct in their assessment
you cannot be his save or anyone else
BUT, the most important thing I can offer as one
for your brother to know he can count on your
unconditional love
it is this kind of love needed
to know when he is ready to throw in the towel
YOU will be there for support
dear friend
operative word support
there isn't anything else you can do

i hope and pray
with what the real problems are
that take him to mask it
however insignificant it could be for one
it is so not the same for for those who do not suffer
addiction
so much bigger than the drug alcohol food sex gambling
and on and on
you are a precious sister
do not let go
do not stop giving him your unconditional love

you must take care of you before helping anyone else

i give you my love and a hug
to a very special woman
as things may be tough here
you can lean on me
love me