Hi everybody.

Just wanted to update and perhaps get some feedback. Alan has seen the urologist twice since he had the infection (turned out it was e-coli) and pneumonia. God Bless this man but he checked out A-OK and his lungs are clear and his urologist (we just saw him a few days ago) said "we tried to grow a culture and took blood and there is absolutely no more infection in his body and no signs of pneumonia'. So I thought I could breathe.

Then he said "We have to wait a few months and then we'll do a biopsy" I looked at him and said 'oh, you are definitely going to do a biopsy". (Because Alan had atypical cells which they found during the the TURP and he said they MIGHT do a biopsy after he heals (which is about 3 to 4 months).

So I said "but you weren't sure you needed to do a biopsy" and he hits me with 'Well, he has transitional cancer cells'. He then proceeded to explain to me that when they do a biopsy they need to take samples from different places (I know what this means). I looked at him and said "Oh, you need to see if it's age related cancer or Prostate Cancer". He said "that's exactly right". I then asked 'What if it's aged related cancer, what do you do"? He said "nothing'. I then said "What if it's prostate cancer, what do you do?" and he said "Oh, we just do radiation and that's that, it's no big thing"

Well, I looked up this Brachytherapy and while it's no bigee, I get that there's no danger of me getting radiation from Alan, that is not why I am writing (and I wrote to Glenn and he will probably see my question here also).

It seems that when they send a man home after he gets seed implantation, they put him on Flomax.

Alan can't take Flomax, that's why they did the TURP. It seems that men need a little help in the urination department after he gets brachytherapy.

So if a man cannot take Flomax (because if he takes it he will faint and I'm not going through that again, with broken noses and paramedics and hospital stays, I simply cannot do that, it's all on me and well, you know what I mean)

I did not know that (about the Flomax after prostate surgery) and yeah I know, I'm looking way into the future because he didn't have the biopsy yet but he's going to and I have OCD, so I need to plan stuff.

So if anyone knows what they put men on (when they can't take Flomax) to help them pee, I'd sure like to know what I will be facing.

Alan presently is on Finasteride and will be on it till November 1 and then one month off it. Then we see the urologist on December 2nd and while he is in no rush to do any biopsy and he believes Alan has age related prostate cancer, I myself do not know this and I would like to know what, if any, he might put Alan on to help him urinate after a possible seed implantation.

I'm not neurotic yet but believe me, when this is all on one's shoulders, one needs to prepare. I do take one day at a time, and I do have friends but honestly, I can't talk about this with any of them. So that's why I come here.

If anyone has any input, please let me know.

It gets hard sometimes to have it all on my shoulders. I'm just enjoying the fact that he doesn't have orthostatic hypotension anymore, due to Flomax. He's not on it at all and I don't want him to have to be taking it again.

Thanks much

Love you all,

Melody