Some men just don't get it, some do. If you feel that he is pressuring you and no longer feel he is capable of understanding that you both need to be patient and wait for that right moment when you are feeling well enough to be able to be intimate, that moment when you can handle his touch even a gentle one. If he is not willing to learn about CRPS and what it does to you and how you feel each and every day. If he is not willing to understand that CRPS can cause you issues not only physically, but emotionally as well, then perhaps he is not the right person for you. I hope he is willing to learn and perhaps you might be his best teacher. This is a lifelong situation and if he wants to be part of your life, he needs to understand those things.

A relationship is about caring, sharing and learning from each other each and every day, loving what the other loves, and living for each other. A relationship needs to be worked at or it will start to fall apart or become another boring relationship that many, not all, long term married couples fall into. It can be done through intimacy, but quite often it is not. Try to find something that the two of you can share together that you are capable of doing. If you are hurting too much, let him know that and perhaps he will do his best to keep you company and keep your spirits up. Even if it is just siting around and telling each other stories, jokes or anything else.

My husband always says he lives for dimples. I believe him. He tries every day to put a smile on my face. After being together for 9 years, he always finds a way of doing that many times each day, no matter how I feel. I hope your boyfriend is capable of finding a way of doing that for you as well.

Alaina