Jenna,

Purplefoot has given sound relationship and self-care advice. Now I get to jump in with the fun stuff .

Don't let limitations come between you. Your boyfriend's needs getting met does matter. They don't trump your physical needs but they can affect how close he feels to you and are potentially creating stress and division. Our partners can't experience our pain and needs are relative. His are not going to go away. Hopefully they can be reigned in a bit...

With your current condition you should be in charge. Do whatever is comfortable for you that allows you to help your boyfriend feel close and loved. By all means don't settle for no cuddling. Let it lead to something...just let that something look different and be something you can tolerate. It might require timing of pain meds, alteration of methods or doing something new and wacky. Now's the time to try new things! I will refrain from making specific suggestions...However, I encourage you to let your imagination solve the problem in a safe and creative way.

I believe it is possible to find a solution that allows you both some level of fulfillment while keeping you comfortable. Don''t give up on this. Sex can be a healthy, healing distraction from pain and help you strengthen your bond during a difficult time. And it can definitely contribute to happier partners...